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(1) Aik mard ko dusre mard ka badan lazzat ki niyyat se nahi dekhna chahiay aur aik aurat ka dosri aurat k badan ko lazzat ki niyat se dekhna bhi haram he. isi tarah agar haram kaam me mubtila hone ka khauf ho tab bhi haram he. jo shakhas shadi na karne ki wajah se haram kaam me mubtila hota ho us par wajib he ke shadi kare. (tawzihu masail, Aqai Sistani d.b. masaala no. 2397, 2402+207)
(2) Shewat ki niyat se aurat k aurat ko gale lagaana , is ka bosa lena aur is se cheer chaar karna ye tamaam kaam haraam hain. (Ref : Jaded Faqhi Masayl Ayat ullaha Sistani d.b. Masla # 515 pg # 268)
(3) Sohoq yani aurat ka apni sharamgha ko doseri aurat ki sharamghah se milana gunah e azeem hay.Aur ishi tara shohar aur biwi k ilawa kisi dosere tareeqe se jinse laszat haasil karna gunah e azeem hay.(Ref. Ref: Ayatullah Sistani(d.b),Minhajus saliheen,part#1, maslah# 30 Ayatullah Sistani(d.b)
(4) Agar waaqe,an aisa(yani jins ki tabdeeli) hona mumkin ho tu ba-zaat khud ye haraam nahi hay albatta dosery jihaat jaise chone aur dheekne k aitebaar se haraam hoga siwaa,e ye k ye amal (yani jins ki tabdeeli) zarori ho jaay aur is farz per k jinsi tabdeeli ho jaay tu saare ehkaam naay(new) jins ki bina per jaari hongay nah k purani(old) jins k mutaabiq laikin sirf zaahiri tour per tabdeeli k aajane ka matlab ye nahi hota hay k jins tabdeel ho gae hai. (Ref: Ayatullah Sistani(d.b), Mujtahid se pouchey gay sawalat part #3 , ques #164 , pg # 74) ).
(5) First of all you must repent and pray to Almighty Allah (swt) for forgiveness and promise yourself not to do that sin again and always remember that Allah (swt) is looking at you and by doing that sin you do obey devil and disobey Allah(swt). Also try to engage in some useful activities such as sport, reading ..etc and avoid anything that may arise your sexual desire. Also if you cannot control yourself then you must get married.(E-mail rcvd from A.Sistani(d.b), dated: Sep 27, 2010) Translate: sub se phele shermindagi ka ehsaas karain or Allah se maghfirat talab karain or khud se ehed or wada karain k is gunah ko dobara anjaam nahi dain gay, or hameshah yaad rakhain k Allah aap ko daikh raha hay, or this gunah ko anjaam day ker aap shaitan ka hokum maan rahay hain or Allah kin a-fermani ker rahay hain.aap koshish karain k khuch mufeed kamo main khud ko masroof ker lain jaisay sport, perha,e waghaira, or har os cheez se bachain jo aap ki jinsi khahish ko ubharay ya baydaar karain. Agar aap khud par qabo nah paa saktay hoon tab aap k liay zarori hay k shadi karain. (E-mail rcvd from A.Sistani(d.b), dated: Sep 27, 2010).(Khuda aap ki tawfiqaat mein izafa farmaye)
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